Showing posts with label Breastfeeding. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Breastfeeding. Show all posts

Monday, October 1, 2018

It's Over...


Thanks to PCOS, I knew from the very start that breast feeding was probably going to be difficult.  When we found out we were pregnant, we both agreed that I should attempt breast feeding - even if it only worked out for a short time.

I gave myself some goals - make it through her first week and see what her pediatrician says.  Her weight checked out perfectly, so I decided to make it until the next check up.  Then the next, then the end of maternity leave, and finally 6 months!

Here we are, 2 weeks shy of her 6 month "birthday" and I am still breast feeding - sort of.  She usually takes 7-10 ounces a day while I am at work... I am not pumping nearly enough.  On a good day, I will pump 8 ounces.  There are some days when I am lucky enough to pump 5 ounces... While I am extremely pro breast feeding, I will ALWAYS agree that fed is best.

Breast feeding is hard... When I am with Diana, I know that every 4 hours - no matter what I am doing, or trying to get done - I will have a tiny human attached to me.  I have horrible anxiety (still) about breast feeding her in public.  Not because I don't know my rights, I am very well aware of them actually.  I just have horrible body image of myself, so the thought of any type of exposure OR confrontation from a complete stranger, I just can't handle it.  Though, on the occasion that I see another breast feeding mom, I always remind her of how awesome she is and throw a fist pump her way!

I guess I am one of the lucky ones... I have never experienced mastitis, only had a clogged duct one time, and I have never experienced cracked or otherwise damaged nipples (overshare??) It's been a beautiful experience.  I feel I have truly bonded with my daughter in a way that no one else ever could.  I feel I have given my daughter life in a way that no one else could, by way of being her food source.  I will always be eternally grateful to even have this experience, because most PCOS moms never do.

I have tried all of the "tricks" from more water, lactation cookies, oatmeal for breakfast, various drinks and other foods, but I am still unable to produce enough to exclusively breast feed.  This week, we have started supplementing 1 bottle with formula and see how it goes.  I will also continue to pump at work, because even if I can only give her 1 bottle through out the day I will! I will also continue to attempt to nurse in the morning and before she goes to bed.

Honestly, I am trying not to beat myself up over this - I gave it my absolute best!  I have done all I know to do, but I also know that my daughter needs to eat to live...

I will also forever continue to support new momma's in their journeys - whether breast feeding or not!  Everyone needs someone to be their cheerleader!  What works for you may not have worked for me, but we are Momma's and in this together.

Monday, September 10, 2018

Rock Star Moms


I came back to work in July... and let me tell you - IT WAS HARD!!  I had just spent the last 12 weeks being my babe's total life line!  I fed her - literally, as we are heading towards month 5 of exclusively breast feeding - I changed her, played with her, held her while she napped... I didn't want to leave any of that.

Unfortunately, society makes it extra difficult for a parent to stay home and raise their child.  So... until we win the lottery, we both work 40 hours a week.

My goal is to make it to 6 months of breast feeding, so that means I have to pump when I am not with her.  The thought of having to pump at work just stressed me out!  Between making sure I have all of my supplies with me, making sure I have lunch at work, making sure I get out of the house on time, AND get the baby to my mom's house was a LOT to carry in the morning.

After about a week of trying to get myself together and NOT feel like a pack mule, I have the following items here at work with me:

My breast pump - My insurance company paid for my pump and went through Aeroflow. They took care of everything!  I went with the Medela.

In my pump bag, I keep the following:

     +4 flanges so that I can use 1 set during the day and have the other set clean for the next day.

     +Some Quick Clean Wipes to use between sessions

     +Norwex Napkins that I use in place of paper towels - let's face it... pumping can get messy

At my desk, I keep the following:

     +1 box of Kiinde storage bags, and order more when I run low

     +Additional packages of wipes, and order more when I run low

     +Norwex Dish Detergent to wash my pump parts each day

     +Boon Drying Patch to let the pump parts dry over night

     +Bottle Brush

Thankfully, all of these items are stored, and locked, safely in my desk.  Plus, all of my supplies are here, so I don't have to try and remember anything else.

I also keep frozen lunches here in the office freezer, and a plethora of snacks - because let's face it, breast feeding makes me HUNGRY!! I even keep lactation cookies at my desk!  They don't help everyone, but they help me AND they taste good!  I wouldn't keep them if they didn't.

Hope this helps you Momma, as you prepare to return to work.  You got this!!

Sunday, June 10, 2018

Breast Feeding and Public...


In case anyone was wondering, I am 100% pro breast feeding - HOWEVER!!! I am also 100% pro Fed is Best!  A momma has gotta do what a momma has gotta do to feed her child.  I am also a woman living with PCOS.  Most PCOS patients have a low milk supply and are unable to breast feed.

Thankfully, I have been blessed with a supply that not only feeds Diana, but also allows me to pump and have a frozen supply for when I go back to work... which is another post in itself.

While I am pro breast feeding, I have yet to feed Diana in public.  I either work it out to where she is fed before we leave the house, OR I find myself sitting with her in the backseat of our car with the air running.  Mainly because I am terrified... I am terrified of someone saying something to me in public.  We have tried to use a cover, but Diana refuses - not that I blame her... I don't think I would enjoy my meal under a blanket either.  And I absolutely REFUSE to feed her in a restroom... GROSS!!! 

Tonight, I was at Target with my parents and Diana decided it was dinner time - I feed her on demand, and she is usually on a really good schedule, but that doesn't matter.  We had just checked out, and I thought we had plenty of time to get home... I was wrong.  I started to take her out of her pumpkin seat to walk out to the car, when my mom remembered we were standing in a newly remodeled Target - Complete with a brand new Mother's Room! 

I grabbed Ole Girl and headed for the fitting rooms!  Sure enough, there was a nursing room!  I didn't take pictures, as I didn't have my phone - big mistake... BUT!!  The door had a lock, so we were in complete privacy.  The room had a comfy chair, with a table close by with ports to charge a phone.  The room was even large enough for a family to use as a family fitting room!  The ONLY thing I can think of that would have made it any better is if it had a changing station.  And the ONLY reason why I think a changing station would have made the room a bit better is because I am not sure if there is a changing station in the men's room.  Dad's have to change kiddo's too... but that's not the point.

Target's stance and support of breast feeding mothers made it possible for me to feed my daughter in a private location, without fear of judgement from other customers.  Even the employees were kind enough to show me to the room, when I wasn't 100% sure of where it was located. 

As a brand new, first time mom who is doing my best to continue breast feeding, I appreciate the fact that I can feed my daughter while shopping.  Honestly, I don't have that option at any other store... even if they have a Pro Breast Feeding stance, I would still have to sit out somewhere and worry about other customers and their comments.

For all you mommies who choose to breast feed, uncovered, and in public - I salute and support you!  If I see you out, I would gladly sit and chat with you for a moment and show my support!  I just don't have the confidence in myself to do it... But I am working on it.

Thank you Target!!  This breast feeding mom thanks you!!

Thursday, December 14, 2017

Breastfeeding… see it doesn’t hurt anyone…


Warning:  This post may or may not be NSFW.  It is also my opinion and based on my own personal research – legal rights and benefits.  No one else is responsible for this post by ME.

Facebook has made me extremely mad recently… More and more, I am seeing posts about moms shamed in public AND private for feeding their child.  More importantly, BREASTFEEDING or NURSING their child.  It has sparked both outrage against mothers AND support for mothers as well.  It’s a touchy subject, mainly because people seem completely uninformed OR society has seriously over sexualized the female body to the point that what we are NATURALLY made for is now seen as unnatural and immoral.
                                                           
LEGALLY
Per the Fair Labor Standards Act (FLSA) of 1938 (29 U.S. Code 207), which was amended in 2010, companies are now required to allow reasonable break times for new mothers to express (or pump) their milk for up to 1 year after their baby is born.  The employer is not required to pay mothers for this time, but they are required breaks for them.  The employer must also provide a place to “pump in private” Per the wording in the code – this does NOT include a restroom! 

Break times can vary, but the times and breaks cannot be limited.  For example, a mother CANNOT be told “you will pump at 10am and 2pm for 10 minutes only”.  This is against the law.  If a mother is fired for “taking too many breaks to pump” a lawsuit can be filed – a mom cannot be fired for pumping breast milk for her baby.  A mother is ALSO protected from retaliation, or firing, because of filing a complaint!  Basically, if my manager tries to give me a hard time for taking 3 breaks at 20 minutes each for pumping, and I am fired for filing a complaint to the Wage and Hour Division, I am protected.  **Side note, my manager and the company I work for are amazing when it comes to pregnancy, mothering, and families.  It has been said to me numerous times through the duration of my current pregnancy “family comes first” and they are being incredibly accommodating.  So, any example that I make using myself and my company are NOT how things actually have been or will be for me.**

A really cool thing I have also learned in my research is that support, supplies, and even lactation counselors are to be completely covered by health insurances!

Moving on…

49 out of 50 states, even Washington D.C. and the Virgin Islands protect women, allowing them to breastfeed in ANY public or private location. – Idaho is the only state not included in this list…

29 states, D.C., and the Virgin Islands protect breastfeeding mothers from indecency laws. States included:  AK, AZ, AR, FL IL, KY, MA, MI, MN, MS, MO, MT, NV, NH, NY, NC, ND, OK, PA, RI, SC, SD, TN, UT, VA, WA, WI, WY

28 states, D.C., and Puerto Rico protect mothers to nurse while at work.  States included:  AR, CA, CO, CT, DE, GA, HA, IL, IN, LA, ME, MN, MS, MT, NM, NH, NY, ND, OK, OR, RI, TN, TX, UT, VT, VA, WA, WY

17 states and Puerto Rico allow women to postpone jury duty while breastfeed.  States included:  CA, CT, ID, IL, IA, KS, KY, MI, MS, MO, MT, NE, OK, OR, SD, UT, VA

For further information, and even state by state statutes related to breastfeed, please visit http://www.ncsl.org/research/health/breastfeeding-state-laws.aspx

Health Benefits
There are actually MANY benefits to breastfeeding your baby.  Breastmilk is more nutritionally balanced, lowers the risk of SIDS, and can even boost your babe’s immune system through their first year of life!  Not to mention the skin to skin benefits for both momma and baby!

Considering that it is the absolute most natural food for your infant baby, and not man made, breastmilk provides complete nourishment for your baby.  All of the required proteins, sugars, and fats are provided in breastmilk. 

Breastmilk has been proven to not only boost your babies immune system, it also can help fight against illnesses.  Apparently, even kiddos who go to group day cares have a better chance of not catching someone else’s cold because of the breastmilk. 

Breastfeeding also helps your baby feel safe and comfortable once they are earth side.  Think about it… for 9 months, all they know is momma’s heartbeat, the dark closeness of the womb, and the voice of momma and anyone around frequently during the pregnancy.  Then, they are thrust into a world of bright lights, loud noises, and life that is not a 24-7 Jacuzzi… I don’t remember being born – obviously – but the thought of life changing THAT drastically sounds kind of scary… Breastfeeding has shown to comfort a baby and reassurance.

And from a weight loss standpoint for momma… breastfeeding has shown to release oxytocin – which helps your uterus go back to its normal size, help you lose the “baby weight”, and has even shown to lower risk of various cancers such as breast and ovarian!

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What does the Bible say about it?
When I think about the time the bible was written, I don’t think that bottles or formula was readily available… I also don’t think that God would have created anything on or in us that didn’t serve some sort of purpose (the appendix doesn’t count… I am sure it is used for something OTHER than trying to kill us when it’s infected…)  Here are some scripture I have found that reference breastfeeding:

Luke 11:27 – As He said these things, a woman in the crowd raised her voice and said to Him, “Blessed is the womb that bore You, and the breasts at which You nursed – English Standard Version.  Now, to put the scripture into perspective, this is from when Jesus was teaching about how to pray (you know, the Lord’s Prayer?) and talking about casting out unclean spirits.  It sounds to me that Jesus was breastfed.  I don’t think ANYONE reading this would EVER go up to Mary, the Mother of Jesus, and say “STOP!  This is indecent and you don’t need to do this here”  ESPECIALLY now that most of the whole world knows who Jesus is…

I can go Old Testament too:

Psalm 22:9 – Yet You are He who took me from the womb; You made me trust You at my mother’s breast – English Standard Version.  Sounds to me like King David was breastfed too.

Let me go on:

Genesis 49:25 – by the God of your father who will help you, by the Almighty who will bless you with blessings of heaven above, blessings of the deep that crouches beneath, blessings of the breasts and of the womb – English Standard Version.  Jacob said these things over his sons… and I don’t think he was referring to any sexual blessing from the breast here…

To me, it sounds like breastfeeding was pretty normal in biblical times… and yet now it is looked as a shameful act.

For more references, please open your Bible that is sitting on your shelf – probably collecting dust.

“But Shanna, it’s only shameful when a mother doesn’t cover herself up while she is breastfeeding”  Um… would you please take a blanket and put it over YOUR head while you eat?  I don’t even like my head covered when I sleep, why would I like it when I eat? 

“But Shanna, a mother can take her baby to a restroom to breastfeed”  Please, take your food into the bathroom, have a seat on a toilet that you don’t personally clean (so can you be sure of the germs on it??) and eat up!  Doesn’t sound to appealing or appetizing, does it?

“But Shanna, people get arrested at Mardi Gras for taking their breasts out for beads”  Last I checked, feeding my baby is completely different than showing off my goodies. 

“But Shanna, I don’t want my husband to see another woman’s breasts, or my kids to see breasts before I am ready to talk to them about sex”  Tell your husband to grow up and not over sexualize the human body, and remember what it is made for.  Breast may bring sexual pleasure to some, but ultimately… they are designed and created to nourish a child… and as far as your kids asking questions – tell them truth!  Teach them it is just a mother feeding her baby like they are sitting there shoveling too many calories, or way too much sugar into their mouths.  It’s natural and shouldn’t be treated as anything less.

Now – before I close, I want to make something perfectly and abundantly clear.  There are momma’s in this world who want desperately to breastfeed, but for a number of reasons they can’t – due to my PCOS, I may very well BE one of these momma’s.  There is nothing wrong with you.  You gave birth to a human being and you are just as beautiful not breastfeeding as the momma next to you who is!  Women are amazing!  We can grow human beings without even trying! 

Women, especially, need to STOP shaming mothers and start empowering them!  They are doing exactly what they are created to do!  You don’t have to be pro breastfeeding, but you sure do need to encourage mothers!  You need to stand up for what is naturally and legally and biblically right – ESPECIALLY if you call yourself a Christian. 

There is absolutely NOTHING indecent, or unnatural, or immoral about breastfeeding.  In public or in private.

#NormalizeBreastFeeding #FeedOnMommas #WomenRock